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How do you deal with negative commentators?

When blogging you can be faced with all kinds of opinions and that is fine, kind of the point right. but how do you deal with someone who is not exactly being civilized; someone who goes above and beyond and is unbearable to even communicate with.

Even so how do you go about dealing with said person if they continue even when the issue being discussed is over.

Unfortunately i have had to deal with these type of difficult people before but I'm curious as to what every one else thinks would be a good way to handle such situations.

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idealmike

You know what, I'm grateful for those people! They taught me some invaluable life skills! Mainly how to recognize them and how to deal with them. Through it all, they taught me how to be a bomb diffusing expert!

You see, sometimes in life, you come across people who aren't willing to listen to reason, who just want to argue no matter what. And sometimes you can recognize that and turn it around on their head! Sometimes some people aren't willing to be talked around and you can't work something out with them no matter what you throw down on the table. So when that happens, when you're dealing with someone like that, what can you do to bring matters to a swift and amicable end?

Sometimes, some people just want to argue and don't want to agree on something to end the dispute and move on. They're either disgruntled over something or are just an argumentative person in real life anyway. This makes it almost impossible to have it out with them and anything you seem to say to settle the dispute, simply adds fuel to the flames. When that happens, the best thing to do is not try to disagree with them but actually level with them instead. Try to get on their level and see things how they see it. Then simply just agree with everything they say, even if what they say is wrong and not justified. You don't have to agree wholeheartedly, just agree to hear their opinion and let them know that you've taken it on board. Thank for them for their opinions rather than disagree and try to argue it out.

I used to do telesales for a living. It's not something I would EVER do again! If you've ever seen the movie Boiler Room. That is what it was like for me. A supervisor always breathing down your neck, pushing you to get more sales and then looking down on you when someone gets away as though there was something else you could have done even though you pulled out every trick in the book. But sometimes people would be extremely rude to you even though they were canvassed first and it wasn't a cold call. Some people would even verbally abuse you and swear blind at you down the phone. But rather than retaliating back in the same manner, I learned to recognize that and turn it around on them. So instead of just hanging up, I would thank them for it, literally saying "Oh thanks for that sir, that's great thanks, I really appreciate that cheers!". I would not get all moody with them which is what they want, I would simply turn it around and put it back on them. And for the most part, this would suffice perfectly and be enough to make them hang up on me knowing I'm not going to play their game.

That's how it should be with your blog readers as well or even disgruntled clients, you can only do so much to work something out with them beyond you doing all that you can. They want you to play along with their game as well and want to try and annoy/upset or ruin your day. But when you show that you have thick skin like a rhino and will always turn their insults and derogatory remarks upside down, they are much less likely to carry on that way knowing that it doesn't work and wont get them anywhere anyway.

You just have to recognize when someone is genuinely saying something for a good reason, or if they're saying it just because that's the sort of person you're dealing with. Then when they try to do or say something that could cause dissension between you, don't add fuel to the flame by playing along, but rather learn to diffuse the situation before the bomb goes off!

I hope that gives you some insight into what it takes and how to deal with these sorts of people in life.

Turn it around on them, learn to be a bomb diffusing expert! How do you deal with negative commentators?



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MusicMoguls

yea i completely agree with this it is like the old saying cant fight fire with fire or kill them with kindness in most cases you learn to just work around these type of people and eventually people come around to being on the same page as you if you be sure to handle the situation right. actually it is almost amazing how fast you can see a change of heart "diffusing a bomb" as you said in your comment you know it is all chance cant tell how some one will react only reaction you control is yours really



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Lynne

Something I have learned in life (and this is not from business, this is from counseling and being in treatment for addiction) is that you cannot control what other people do, you can only control yourself.

So when people are negative and unreasonable and behave in a manner that is just not appropriate in any way just make sure your side of the street is clean.

And don't let it get to you on a personal level.

Then regarding your website, well you need to reply to every comment don't you? So this ends up being a non-stop thing doesn't it? Kinda like playing tennis. This is good for your website. Engagement tells the search engines people are interested in your content and every comment related to your content adds new keywords and adds new content.

I love my haters, they help me get ranked How do you deal with negative commentators? So be grateful.



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EliteWriter

Totally agree with you. Try to see the positive thing about it jkeyz - these kind of people should be treated with respect (even though sometimes it is difficult to remain logical when they act like crazy) - and as long as you keep being polite and answer properly and respectfully, you are going to be the leader of the whole conversation. Most likely others will be interested in what is going on and this is going to affect your engagement and site use considerably just as Lynne pointed out. So even if it may appear tedious, consider the good in this! ;)



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MusicMoguls

yea i think that is the most important thing to remember honestly is that when it comes down too it you can not i repeat can not let it get to you emotionally and i feel that is were most people get it wrong they get to involved and those would be the cases were blogging or even communication in general goes south , of course your not going to agree on what every body has too say that is why we have opinions you just be got to state facts clearly and hope everything turns out for the best



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Lynne

You've heard the saying about opinions Jkeyz2?

Opinions are like assholes... everyone has one How do you deal with negative commentators?

Just remember that and make a conscious effort to not let anything get to you.



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MusicMoguls

I like the way you all think!!! Thank you for always giving such amazing and heartfelt responses! I admire that about every one of you! This is why I love working here on SeoClerks, everyone, including Jordan always has a great attitude.

Thank you all for changing my perspective on this matter!!



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Lynne

You should see my Youtube channel! They all hate my guts and my channel is pumping How do you deal with negative commentators?

Keep your chin up and keep responding in a very nice, friendly tone and take it all in your stride... trust me. The ruder people get and the more angry they get the sillier they make themselves look.

If you are getting under people's skin you are doing a great job. I would rather have all these haters than no engagement at all... I am being noticed. People are sitting up and noticing me. When you are working online you have to be noticed or you are just another online marketer struggling to succeed!



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danigo

in our life many people are dislike us too,, how ever just be yourself,,
the main problems lies with your content maybe, so you must revision your blog content before you post it,and while you post , make sure it is very mainfull information ,content are weightly info, so the readers will learn something through our blogging,,



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ajlancer

Hi jkeyz2 thanks for your sharing your concern. I am happy to know that you already handle such situation. I have curious why they do so, I mean why they leave negative comments? Is there any reason you have got? if you got, try to fix it. Or keep silent of yourself, and observe what they want to write? I think criticism may help you to learn for rectify yourself. I tried to do such thing, while I see somebody try to criticize with me, I keep silent myself and after than they need to silent too usually due to no response. If you poke them, I think they will more encourage to do react negatively.

Regards by Ajlancer



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MusicMoguls

well i mean you know in life business or at home you got to take into consideration that there are always people that are not going to be willing to see eye to eye exactly and some of those people feel passionate enough about what they speak and what they are representing that you know they take certain things and just blow out of proportion a little , and those are the types of people i had in mind for this post i have not dealt with too many but for the ones i have i can say i respect there views



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overcast

I think if they are adding some valid criticism then that can be handled. But if they are not adding any positive input then it can be safely said that it is better to ignore them. Because there are no ways we can fix them. And they are only going to increase if we argue. So that is another thing one has to consider. I have found that negative comments take a lot of time to materialize and we can't really fix those things.



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Krisleen

I don't usually pay attention to negative people, especially those who just put comments for the sake of provoking you. I usually ignore them and move forward to my activities. Arguing with negative people will not help boost positive comments. It will only promote hate and start a fight. You may win an argument with them, but you end up being a loser because you let it ruin your day and give you a bad image. I just focus and pay attention to positive people. It helps destroy negative thoughts the moment they appear. Besides, you learn more from positive comments. It can even help you know what areas you can improve.



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peachpurple

I don't answer to negative comments. This will add fuel to the fire. Might as well ignore them and get on with life. Answer those positive comments. There are people who are meant to make things difficult to us writers.



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augusta

The best bet is to ignore negative people.when dealing with the public one should always learn to accommodate all sort especially those ones we can't change.So instead of sending them off and then lose traffic,I rather work around with it or totally ignore them



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Corzhens

A negative comment is meant to improve our work. However, I understand that there are comments that can hurt the writer. And there are also commentators who post a comment to intentionally hurt feelings as a way of their outlet for their hangups. Those I call negative commentators. If the negative comments are getting out of hand then it’s about time to chop it down - block the commentator for your peace of mind and his as well.



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jaymish2

I think negative comments should be embraced unless its some kind of troll who is attacking you. If you're selling products on your blog and you get negative comments, I think you should aim to address them. Adjusting rather than ignoring and getting annoyed at negative comments will show your potential customers that you care. I think addressing negative comments is good customer service.Learn how to deal in a classy way with comments that are supposed to be malicious.



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