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How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback?



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How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback?

Whether you're a buyer or a seller. Sometimes things can go pear shaped, either someone lets you down and can no longer do for you what they've been doing for a long time and that means you have to find someone else. Or perhaps as a seller, a bad customer or buyer can cause you problems and take up a lot of your time. Or maybe it's something worse than this that has caused a setback in your usual work pattern. Perhaps you've worked hard on an order (whether on SEOClerks or outside). And that buyer has gone AWOL and isn't paying for the work for whatever reason. Even though the work was done on time and to a high degree of quality.

So when something like that happens and it causes you a serious setback. How do you keep yourself motivated? Do you just try and carry on where you left off and think about all the good that can come about from the work you're doing. Or do you try and find solace and inspiration in something else or someone else? A pep talk even?

It's good to talk about things and get them off your chest. So it's important to have someone that you can go to that is a positive person that will listen and give you words of encouragement. Just a few kind inspirational words to get you back on track!

Do you require pep talks for motivation when there's a serious setback? Do you have a go-to person or people you can talk to and share your woes with to find encouragement and inspiration? Or do you self-motivate yourself?

How do you deal? How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback?

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TommyCarey

I've been hit with a few big set backs with SEO clients. Mainly because they don't want to contact me anymore after they aren't satisified with their rankings after the first week of work. They all want to have #1 rankings after a week and are extremely mad when they don't see them even after 2 or 3 weeks. After that they tend to file a chargeback since they think that the work we're doing isn't actually helping. And we all know that even for a low competition niche it could take a minimum of 3 months to rank well.

My biggest charge back was close to $2,000 and it was devastating. We had just paid a bunch of bills, personal and business, and we all paid our yearly taxes then got hit with this massive charge back. We lost the charge back because it was for a digital service and paypal didn't favor us back then. Now you have a better chance of being seen as the person or company who actually did the work and not just a scammer.

When I got hit with that huge charge back I had 2 choices. I could let it go through and pout about it or I could fight it, try to get my money back and dominate in my niche. Basically it was game time and I was going to score the final basket How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback?

When something like this happens I usually track down the buyer and if I can find any websites linked to them, I'll spread some bad press since they purchased from me knowing they were going to file a chargeback. If the payment was done fraudulently and I've been contacting the website owner back and forth for a little while, I'll post their website to some lists that will help restrict them from purchasing again. I don't really have a "pick up" for my emotions, I tend to just get mad and then even in these types of situations lol.

I don't really read any books to lift my spirit or call anyone. I do watch a motivational video on YouTube randomly and it has Arnold Schwarzenegger talking about how he rose to fame and had to fight every inch of the way.

Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and go make some money How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback?




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Lynne

Razzy is that the same video or Arnold Schwarzenegger that you shared in a previous discussion thread here? I loved that video and I have watched it a few times now.

I also get that urge to "get even" but for me being resentful and angry is a dangerous place. As much as I would like to get even I try and learn from the situation and let go. It is not always easy to do but it is better for me.




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TommyCarey

Yup, that's the video How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback? I love that video and watch it whenever I feel defeated How do you keep yourself motivated after a serious setback?




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Lynne

Well I am so glad that you shared that video. I really enjoyed it.




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Lynne

This is a great topic,thanks Mike. I think how you deal with setbacks separates "the men from the boys" so to speak and determines what type of life-tsyle you are suited to.

If you are the type of person that falls apart and cannot pick yourself up then I suggest you find a stress free 9 to 5 job.

My personal experience with setbacks (both in a personal and business capacity) is that although it may seem like the world is coming to an end at that time after the storm has blown over it has usually left me a better person and in a better off position than before! I firmly believe that when one door closes two more open, so it is important to look at these challenges as opportunities. An opportunity to learn and to grow.

So anyway when the setback first hits I like to let rip a little bit.

I first phone my mom (for personal) or my dad (for business) and I just let it out. I rant and I rave and they listen.

Then I usually have a period of "OMG what am I going to do?" thoughts. I might talk to a few other people (my sisters, my husband or any other suitable person) at this stage, in a much more calm and collected way to get advice on how to deal with whatever is going on.

Then soon after path forward usually becomes very clear and off I go. I pick myself up, dust myself off and I sort things out.

I can't think of one instance where a setback has not made my life better afterwards. Not always immediately, but when I look at every big setback I have had in my life I can now see why it had to happen to be where I am today.




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EliteWriter

Setbacks are very common unfortunately. And so we need to prepare ourselves for them as they tend to be inevitable. I have had several occasions where the buyers were rude or harassing, and a couple of times when they did not pay me when I was not operating through a marketplace. I tend to keep stuck thinking about it for some time, but then I push myself to move on and try to keep it off my mind as much as possible by focusing on other tasks. It also helps to talk about it to someone else, at least it helps me take off some of the frustration.




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Corzhens

I agree that setbacks come and go. What's important is to stand up again to recover your bearings. Life is like that anyway, failures make us stronger. In business, it is always a gamble thatvwe can lose our shirt but there's also the chance to succeed. One failure does not make us a loser.




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MusicMoguls

Setbacks are bad but at the same time they are good. When something happens and it sets you back you have to think of the positive and when and how this happened. Mistakes and setbacks are only bad if you learn nothing from them, the idea is to improve build and rise up above what has happen and keep it moving. Every time you get set back or something bad happens and you overcome and achieve the next level of success or whatever it is, You will feel more accomplished. Sometimes when your feeling down its good to look back and look at everything you have done in life and count your blessings their are people in the world doing worst than us for sure.




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Cristian

Setbacks actually motivate the hell out of me and I always turn out better than I initially expected.

If things are going well on the long run, well I usually get lazy and I need to actually motivate myself every now and then to keep up at a certain rate.




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Barida

I always bounce back better and with lots of zeal after a setback for I'm of the opinion that nothing can pull me down on my goal to becoming one of the best people around my community. So, I just learn my lessons as regards that and try not to let it happen again.




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