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What if you saw a friend or family member about to make a bad decision? Would you interfere to stop them? What would you do?
Talk to them and find out why they wanted to do what they want to do and see if there is anything that I could do to help.
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Sometimes friends make bad decisions when they don't have good guidance. Be sure to discuss any concerns with your friend as maybe they need advice.
Firstly it depends on what topic they are taking such steps, reason ? and much more things, after that we have to tell them politely
- Sunil Bishnoi
What might seem like a bad decision to one person (such as getting a divorce or leaving a job) might be the ideal solution for the other (such as the spouse who can no longer tolerate her/his partner's infidelity or the worker who is tired of working 20 hour days). You have to walk in someone else's shoes and live their life first before you can say accurately whether or not they are making a bad decision.
Give your friend the opportunity to talk it out or vent if needed. Maybe your friend will just need a sympathetic (non-judgemental) ear, rather than advice on what to or not to do with their own life.
If you love someone, then you will fight to save them, not just sit back and watch that person self destruct. That's how love works.
what do you mean bad decision? How do you know it's bad? Is it truly bad for everyone, or is that only your opinion? If it truly is bad, will hurt them yeah talk to them. Like Beverly said though, so it depends.
I would interfere and ask them if they wanted to talk or needed my help. I try to be a good friend whenever I can be.
one must try his best to stop that person because if he goes ahead, the guilt will be on your own head also just as the bible has said. evil thrives only when good men keep quiet.
If she is an adult she won't accept your interference. But if you love that person as you would your own family, then you would try to stop her from doing wrong anyway. That's how family protects each other.
You love your friend, so don't watch them fall into a hole without offering a hand out. That is the only decent and right thing to do. Don't you agree?
Is this bad decision related to her own personal life such as involving parenting or marriage issue or related to something else? It would be helpful to know more about the situation to know whether or not you should interfere.
Very politely tray to change her bad decision to good decision.
i am loving everyone comments here. this shows we are care about this issue. just do as everyone has stated above and all will be well. we hope he listens.
Yes, I am trying to talk with him/her and tell him/her what I think for this wrong decision. Sometimes they listen but sometimes the situation is beyond out of control.
If you guys have any interest in Cricket, i want to give an example from there.
Sometimes what happens when striker plays a shot & beaten, he thinks he plays a perfect shot but actually what was the mistake can be seen by non-striker easily.
Sometimes same thing happened with our life, We made a mistake & things all was fine but why I got failed. But our friends can see better then us that what mistake we have done actually.
So i want to say you must suggest if your friend doing something wrong.
Bad decision comes in the angry situation. At that time keep the person away from that place. After some time try to convince him/her.
If I seen my friend about to make a bad decision I am definitely going to try and stop them by all means. I wouldn't be classified as a good friend if I didn't interfere. Being a good friend is having your friends back, being trustworthy, honest, and just care for them like they are family. At the end of the day they are their own person and will make any decision they want to make but the least I can do is help prevent them from making that bad choice. I would sit down and talk it over with them, view the cons and pros of the situation. Just letting them know they are not alone can surprising make a big impact on their lives and choices. I wouldn't want to see my friend destroy her life or mess up anything based on one bad choice that could have been prevented. As a good friend I would stick by their side and help guide them in the right path.
Yes I will. That is why I am a friend or family member. If I don't tell them, then no one will. It is my duty and responsibility to let them know what they are doing is wrong. However, in the telling, it has to be balanced and delicate. You are not there to enforce your opinions or order them to do what you want. Rather, you are advising and counseling.
It depends on the kind of friendship that I have with him or her. If she is my close friend and wanting to leave home without permission, I would probably deter her plan. In my era, it was not really common but not rare either for a teenager to leave home when he is at odds with his parents or siblings. We call them stowaways. And if I know that the friend is stubborn and is a schemer, I would not lift a finger no matter how dire her action would be.
If I feel that a close friend or family member is about to make what seems like a bad decision, I most certainly would interfere. First I would try to talk to them and figure out their motivations, what they are expecting to get out of this decision that they're going to make. Then I would try to make them realize that what they are doing might not be the best choice for themselves, and that they should take a moment to try and think it through. I have to intervene in these situations or else I end up feeling guilty if something goes wrong, but in the end, you can take a horse to water but you can't make them drink. Everyone has to make their own decisions for themselves, whether they are good or bad.
It may come off to you the wrong way. But don't do anything. Let them do things on their own. You can't fix their things. And you have to learn about life on your own. You can't fix things for others. That's what I have learned these days. So people have to learn to manage their own life. You are less likely to get help when you're in trouble. So the same applies when you are getting into the problem where friend is affected. So be proactive and choose things better for yourself. That's all I can tell you as well.
The first thing I'm going to do is to tell them the implications of making such decisions and I will try as much as I could to do that with love and care and not criticize them. I will try all I could to stop them from taking such decisions, but if they persisted, then It won't be my fault if things go awry for them.
Well, obviously i don't want to see my family or friends doing something wrong, so the first option is to talk to them. At least, try to expose my point of view. For sure, the decision will be on that person, and I will support whatever he/she wants to do, but making myself clear will keep my conscience clear and quiet.